Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Do you ever feel like a fraud or that you’re unqualified for your position? Maybe it’s a persistent negative feeling that you’re not good enough, that you don’t belong, or that you don’t deserve the success you’ve achieved. If so, you’re not alone and this feeling can be common for many of us. The term used to describe this is called imposter syndrome and most people are likely to experience it at some point in their lives. Imposter syndrome can result in low self-esteem, decreased self-confidence and ability to celebrate accomplishments. Although it can feel like a cycle, there are ways to overcome feeling like an imposter in your own life.
FOCUS ON THE FACTS
When you’re feeling negative about yourself, it can be hard to separate your feelings from actual facts. A good place to start is by asking yourself if you have any proof to back up the thoughts that are coming up. This is a helpful way to challenge your negative thoughts and practice breaking the cycle. You can also find evidence that already exists that supports your qualifications.
IDENTIFY YOUR STRENGTHS
You’re usually aware of your own strengths but you might not be giving yourself the time to recognize and embody them. If you haven’t thought about your personal strengths and qualities in a while, try looking at a list and identify some that stand out. It can also be helpful to identify strengths in different areas in your life, not just professionally. Once you’ve identified them, try choosing one or two each day and see if you can observe yourself utilizing that strength in those moments.
PRACTICE SELF-COMPASSION
There are many ways to practice self-compassion and a good place to start is by thinking about how you would treat others that you care about. Make sure you’re validating your own feelings and giving yourself the time and space to experience them. Allow yourself to make mistakes and give yourself grace in the same way you might for others. Additionally, incorporating positive self-talk and affirmations can make a big impact in your daily life and can promote a healthier relationship with yourself.
USE SOCIAL MEDIA MINDFULLY
The internet can be a great place for people to stay connected but it can also negatively impact our mental health over time. If you find yourself feeling negative or comparing yourself to others after using it, take some time to reflect and identify your intentions. Oftentimes, we mindlessly scroll or pick up our phones as a reflex which can lead to an unhealthy pattern. Taking the time to ask yourself why you are going on it and identifying the amount of time you want to spend using it is a good place to start.
CELEBRATE ACHIEVEMENTS
Whether you’ve achieved a small or large goal, celebrating success is important for your self-esteem and future growth. Sometimes you might be so focused on the end goal that you don’t stop and give yourself the time to appreciate all of the hard work you’ve done. Think about what brings you joy and make sure you’re giving yourself time to reward your accomplishments.
Remember, making mistakes doesn’t make you a fraud. It makes you human and you don’t have to let your imposter syndrome define you. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you want to connect or have any questions. You can reach me at (410) 936-4096 or via email: mandy@mindfultherapycollective.com.